It was inevitable. As is bound to happen in 4th grade, there was a little fracas yesterday involving the girls. One girl was excluded and all the girls were talked to about cliques. At lunch, a boy was made fun of, and once again, all of the girls were talked to about being mean.
When J got home, I asked her about it. To her credit, the teacher did tell me that she stood up for her friend and is honest when the teacher asks her what happened. We've been informed about a certain girl in J's class, and it seems she was at the center of the whole drama.
Chris and I were discussing it before talking with J and we agreed that back when we were in school, none of this would have been cause for the teacher to get involved. The cliques were what they were. I guess in the aftermath of tragedies like Columbine, school officials are tending to be a bit more cautious.
We explained to J that we weren't going to tell her she couldn't hang out with this girl. We want her to be the better person, to possibly have a positive influence on this girl, to be the leader in the right way. I explained to her that being the mean girl is not the cool thing to do, and it won't get her anywhere in life.
Mean girls. Sugar and spice and everything nice. Or so you think.