It's been exactly one month since we brought the kids home. It's been one month of adjustments, tantrums, and exhaustion - and the kids are going through some stuff as well (bah dum dum!).
In all seriousness, the last three days have seemed to be easier. That's the best way I can explain it. It seems that we're getting how to communicate to and with them, and they're getting how the rules work around here.
We've established family nights, chores, routine. The days go by much faster than they used to, but that's ok.
J got the book 'The Care and Keeping of You' from me last week. I recommend it to ANYONE who has a daughter. I'm not kidding. RUN to Amazon and get this book. Like yesterday. I don't care that your daughter is nine months old. Get it. Now.
I read the entire thing before I gave it to her and I cannot recommend it enough - have I said that? She is 9, will be 10 on 2/12, and it was timely. She's a bit more on the mature side, she's my 10 year old going on 15. There are a few things that we all fumble on explaining, and this book does it well, and with language that isn't condescending or patronizing.
I also bought this one:
I haven't read it yet, and she won't get it until her birthday. But I've seen her moods strike already and I want her to understand what she's going through.
I also bought this one:
Mainly because I want her to make good choices. She has a good foundation with us now on learning to make choices. She hasn't always had that, and I want her to hear it coming from another source other than mom. You know, cause I am about to enter the time in my life where 'I KNOW NOTHING'.
This one is another birthday present.
She will FUH-LIP when she sees this one. Chris and I have decided we may start letting her stay home for little bits at a time. She's almost 10, which in Oregon is when kids are legally allowed to be home alone (one of, I believe, only three states that has a law about age). She's already asked, and we might as well start getting her ready for it. Like I said, she's more mature than a lot of the 9-10 year olds I've seen, and as long as she can prove herself, I think she'll do well.
W continues to crack me up. He's got a very good sense of humour. He also has a HUGE heart. We were at a friend's house this weekend for a birthday party. The kids were all playing in the playroom and one of the little girls fell. He stopped what he was doing, went to her, and helped her up, all while saying 'you're ok! Come on.' I almost lost it. What a sweetie.
That's not to say he can't be a Cranky McCrankerpants. Oh brother when he doesn't get his way.
All in all, it's going well. We're settling in. We're figuring it out. And, dare I say, we're successfully parenting two kids who deserve to have a stable family.
We're still here.